The word "should" is an incredibly dangerous word.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That should have happened...this should go that way..."
Truth is, it didn't go that way.
When you are living in the land of should you are living in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to keep coming back to the present.
We are all going to have incredibly painful times in our lives that are going to make us want to project an experience onto a life we really have real idea of what's going to happen. That's ok in some ways, but the reality is you have to come back to living in the mystery of the present moment.
The dark times will always be present.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So...you have to view it this way. What happened happened...and it couldn't have happened in any other way.
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
You get to accept the reality of the life you are in.
"Should" doesn't exist anymore.
No past.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
You're living "here."
So stay connected with the present moment.
Come to a world full of acceptance.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That should have happened...this should go that way..."
Truth is, it didn't go that way.
When you are living in the land of should you are living in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to keep coming back to the present.
We are all going to have incredibly painful times in our lives that are going to make us want to project an experience onto a life we really have real idea of what's going to happen. That's ok in some ways, but the reality is you have to come back to living in the mystery of the present moment.
The dark times will always be present.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So...you have to view it this way. What happened happened...and it couldn't have happened in any other way.
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
You get to accept the reality of the life you are in.
"Should" doesn't exist anymore.
No past.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
You're living "here."
So stay connected with the present moment.
Come to a world full of acceptance.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Bible Verses About Faith http://thewordsofencouragement.com/bible-verses-about-faith/ or these Quotes On Hope http://thewordsofencouragement.com/quotes-on-hope/ to get some motivation to move forward!
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