A codependent relationship is a dysfunctional one. Codependents have a pattern of behavior in which they need other people to like them and approve of them. They depend on others for their self worth and identity and go out of their way to please others, often sacrificing their own needs in the process. Codependency is difficult to treat as codependents are often in denial.
Boundaries are an important aspect of relationships. Codependents often have trouble with boundaries. They may be blurred in the sense that they try to fix the other person, even if their advice is ignored. They become too responsible for the problems and feelings of another person. Others may have rigid boundaries so that others cannot get close. Sometimes they will fall around between these two extremes.
People-pleasing and care-taking are often used to control and manipulate others as they need them to act in a certain way to make them feel secure. Communication is no longer honest as a result. There is an unhealthy clinging as they depend on their loved ones for fulfillment instead of finding it in themselves. They often give support to their partners at the cost of their own physical, emotional and mental health.
They are afraid of being abandoned or rejected and will stay in a relationship, even if it is abusive. They actually choose a bad relationship over being alone. Low self-esteem, shame, fear of being judged or rejected and feeling trapped are common in such a relationship. Anger and resentment, depression, despair and a sense of hopelessness are other common feelings.
In such a relationship, a partner will often cater to the anxiety of the codependent person. They delude themselves into thinking they are helping but they may just be reinforcing the negative behavior patterns. To repair such a relationship, it is important to set boundaries and for each person to find happiness as an individual.
There is often denial on the part of a codependent person in such a situation. They always feel that the other person or the situation is the real problem. Although some codependents appear needy, others act self-sufficient when it comes to needing help. They will not reach out and ask for help. Behavior habits are deeply ingrained and often difficult to identify and change.
It may be necessary to receive guidance and support as it is often difficult to make these changes alone. Some of the changes that may have to be made is to spend more time with family and friends, find enjoyable hobbies and even to spend time apart to create a more healthy dependency.
The sooner someone reaches out for help, the less likely it is for the problem to reach critical proportions. Awareness, acceptance and then taking action is necessary sooner rather than later. Recovery is possible and there are various methods and techniques professionals use to address the issue and establish a healthy relationship.
Boundaries are an important aspect of relationships. Codependents often have trouble with boundaries. They may be blurred in the sense that they try to fix the other person, even if their advice is ignored. They become too responsible for the problems and feelings of another person. Others may have rigid boundaries so that others cannot get close. Sometimes they will fall around between these two extremes.
People-pleasing and care-taking are often used to control and manipulate others as they need them to act in a certain way to make them feel secure. Communication is no longer honest as a result. There is an unhealthy clinging as they depend on their loved ones for fulfillment instead of finding it in themselves. They often give support to their partners at the cost of their own physical, emotional and mental health.
They are afraid of being abandoned or rejected and will stay in a relationship, even if it is abusive. They actually choose a bad relationship over being alone. Low self-esteem, shame, fear of being judged or rejected and feeling trapped are common in such a relationship. Anger and resentment, depression, despair and a sense of hopelessness are other common feelings.
In such a relationship, a partner will often cater to the anxiety of the codependent person. They delude themselves into thinking they are helping but they may just be reinforcing the negative behavior patterns. To repair such a relationship, it is important to set boundaries and for each person to find happiness as an individual.
There is often denial on the part of a codependent person in such a situation. They always feel that the other person or the situation is the real problem. Although some codependents appear needy, others act self-sufficient when it comes to needing help. They will not reach out and ask for help. Behavior habits are deeply ingrained and often difficult to identify and change.
It may be necessary to receive guidance and support as it is often difficult to make these changes alone. Some of the changes that may have to be made is to spend more time with family and friends, find enjoyable hobbies and even to spend time apart to create a more healthy dependency.
The sooner someone reaches out for help, the less likely it is for the problem to reach critical proportions. Awareness, acceptance and then taking action is necessary sooner rather than later. Recovery is possible and there are various methods and techniques professionals use to address the issue and establish a healthy relationship.
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