Ever been dumped? If you are like most people, you almost certainly have (or will be) at some point in life. I'm not saying this to be pessimistic. It is simply a simple matter of fact that if you aren't married yet, there is a moderately good likelihood that you'll have to deal with your share of heartbreak.
But it can add an extra sting to have to deal with the pain of getting dropped for someone else. Add the sensations of inadequacy matched against someone else to the sensations of rejection that you are already experiencing and you've got a very unpleasant combo.
Sadly, folks do get dumped for other folks. That's just how some people deal with relationships. If you have been dumped for another person, that possibly isn't very much comfort, but here are a couple of things to keep under consideration as you go forwards.
First, understand this says more about your ex than it does about you and your capacity to be lovable. Leaving someone for another person is a very disrespectful move to make. Your ex might have at least given you the courtesy to split up with you when they knew the relationship wasn't gratifying instead of stringing you along until they found someone else to "replace" you.
I know it can be difficult, but don't take this personally. It does not meant that you are not a worthwhile person or that you should compare yourself to this new person in your ex's life. Remember this decision was ultimately your ex's, and by most people's standards, it was a very poor choice on their part.
Second, don't treat their new partner as your competition. This other person likely did not snag your partner away from you. In all probability, they may not have even known that your ex was in a relationship when they first met them. Again, this just goes back to your ex's poor judgement and their incapability to end a relationship that isn't going well for them.
Treat this other person more as an innocent bystander who in all possibility simply got wrapped up in your ex's poor choice. It isn't difficult to look at them as your enemy, but just as you would not like them to view you as their enemy, you should not see them as the cause of your break up. Of course , if it wasn't them, your ex likely would have left you for someone else anyhow.
It can be tough to be dumped for another person, but try to keep the above two points in mind and you will be in a significantly better mental condition to handle your recovery from your break up.
But it can add an extra sting to have to deal with the pain of getting dropped for someone else. Add the sensations of inadequacy matched against someone else to the sensations of rejection that you are already experiencing and you've got a very unpleasant combo.
Sadly, folks do get dumped for other folks. That's just how some people deal with relationships. If you have been dumped for another person, that possibly isn't very much comfort, but here are a couple of things to keep under consideration as you go forwards.
First, understand this says more about your ex than it does about you and your capacity to be lovable. Leaving someone for another person is a very disrespectful move to make. Your ex might have at least given you the courtesy to split up with you when they knew the relationship wasn't gratifying instead of stringing you along until they found someone else to "replace" you.
I know it can be difficult, but don't take this personally. It does not meant that you are not a worthwhile person or that you should compare yourself to this new person in your ex's life. Remember this decision was ultimately your ex's, and by most people's standards, it was a very poor choice on their part.
Second, don't treat their new partner as your competition. This other person likely did not snag your partner away from you. In all probability, they may not have even known that your ex was in a relationship when they first met them. Again, this just goes back to your ex's poor judgement and their incapability to end a relationship that isn't going well for them.
Treat this other person more as an innocent bystander who in all possibility simply got wrapped up in your ex's poor choice. It isn't difficult to look at them as your enemy, but just as you would not like them to view you as their enemy, you should not see them as the cause of your break up. Of course , if it wasn't them, your ex likely would have left you for someone else anyhow.
It can be tough to be dumped for another person, but try to keep the above two points in mind and you will be in a significantly better mental condition to handle your recovery from your break up.
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