It's easy to forget just how powerful our subconscious minds can be. We are often completely unaware of how our actions (or inaction) are affecting our lives. We may complain that things never work out for us, we always seem to have bad luck, or we just don't have what it takes to be successful.
But what many people fail to realize is that they are actually creating their own circumstances through subconscious self-sabotage (so in other words they have no idea they're actually creating their own problems).
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
When we have something we want to accomplish, say losing weight, it's very important to want to achieve that goal both on an intellectual level and on a subconscious level. You see, when overweight people constantly fail to lose weight, or just fail to keep it off; it may be for a number of reasons. It may be because they are scared of the outcome on some subconscious level. They might feel like their fat is protecting them from the outside world; protecting them from reality. It may provide a shell for their insecurity. And suddenly, losing weight isn't a happy ever after solution anymore: it's a threat. So even though might say they want to lose weight, and firmly believe that on an intellectual level, they're subconsciously sabotaging their diets or workout plans rationalizing it by promising themselves that they'll try harder tomorrow.
However, people who self-sabotage may also think that they're simply not worthy of achieving their goals. They may fear what people would think of them if they were to accomplish the goals they've set. Therefore, the subconscious self-sabotage is ensuring a failed endeavor. When one thinks like this, they have essentially tricked themselves into believing they know what they want to accomplish. But if there is just the slightest fear or doubt about their decision to achieve their goals they will always find a way to ensure they won't succeed. Not ideal is it!? Do you feel like you're stuck? That no matter how much effort you put into it, you simply can't seem to succeed with your goals? Perhaps the description above fits you, and you may be a saboteur yourself.
Time for some good news! We can all overcome this self-sabotage mess. The very first thing you need to do is understand when it's happening - easy right? Wrong! But it can be achieved with deep understanding and conscious awareness of your emotions, thoughts and fears. It's about being brutally honest with yourself. It's about holding yourself to the highest account possible. It's about deciding that your goal is more important than letting yourself off the hook time after time.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
But what many people fail to realize is that they are actually creating their own circumstances through subconscious self-sabotage (so in other words they have no idea they're actually creating their own problems).
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
When we have something we want to accomplish, say losing weight, it's very important to want to achieve that goal both on an intellectual level and on a subconscious level. You see, when overweight people constantly fail to lose weight, or just fail to keep it off; it may be for a number of reasons. It may be because they are scared of the outcome on some subconscious level. They might feel like their fat is protecting them from the outside world; protecting them from reality. It may provide a shell for their insecurity. And suddenly, losing weight isn't a happy ever after solution anymore: it's a threat. So even though might say they want to lose weight, and firmly believe that on an intellectual level, they're subconsciously sabotaging their diets or workout plans rationalizing it by promising themselves that they'll try harder tomorrow.
However, people who self-sabotage may also think that they're simply not worthy of achieving their goals. They may fear what people would think of them if they were to accomplish the goals they've set. Therefore, the subconscious self-sabotage is ensuring a failed endeavor. When one thinks like this, they have essentially tricked themselves into believing they know what they want to accomplish. But if there is just the slightest fear or doubt about their decision to achieve their goals they will always find a way to ensure they won't succeed. Not ideal is it!? Do you feel like you're stuck? That no matter how much effort you put into it, you simply can't seem to succeed with your goals? Perhaps the description above fits you, and you may be a saboteur yourself.
Time for some good news! We can all overcome this self-sabotage mess. The very first thing you need to do is understand when it's happening - easy right? Wrong! But it can be achieved with deep understanding and conscious awareness of your emotions, thoughts and fears. It's about being brutally honest with yourself. It's about holding yourself to the highest account possible. It's about deciding that your goal is more important than letting yourself off the hook time after time.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
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